Colling Powell once said: “There are no secrets which help to succeed. It is all a result of preparation, hard work and learning from failure.” Failure is an inseparable element of human life. Many people treat them as a great obstacle to goal achievement. There are people who treat failure as a chance to review their own strategies of problem solving and a chance for development. In her book “3 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do” Amy Morin formulates specific principles which will help you to change the approach to your own failures. Here are the most important ones:
- Don’t lose energy for things you can’t control
Everybody has a grumbler around them who loves to criticize reality, especially the circumstances which do not depend on them. This can be anything from the weather to lost luggage at the airport. Mentally resilient people take life into their own hands regardless of the circumstances and don’t lose time to find the person to blame for the situation they have found themselves in. The most important thing for them is to act against all odds.
- Don’t worry about what others will say.
As people we have the tendency to hide information which could hurt the other person or would be uncomfortable to them, except it makes us feel bad. This is misleading because by hiding certain information, we hide the truth. Mentally resilient people tend to say what they think and what is true to them, caring for the comfort of the other person at the same time. Most importantly, their self-esteem stays intact even if the person will feel discomfort with the information they hear.
- They don’t expect immediate results.
We live in a world in which we want to have everything “at once”. When we don’t know something, we check the information online When we are very hungry we order take out. When we want to talk to someone we can connect with them by phone in a few minutes. The same goes for our goals: we want to get the desired result with little effort. Mentally resilient people don’t expect fast results because they know change takes time.